Are you spinning multiple plates at once? Mother, wife, employee, cook, cleaner, project manager, taxi driver, home-school teacher? If it’s actually possible for women to ‘have it all’, as society assures us it is, then why do we feel like we are failing?
All over the world, women shoulder most of the responsibilities of parenting and managing a home, even when both partners are in paid employment. The better they do this job, the more invisible it becomes. Many people understand neither the scale of this enormous job nor its value to the family. Failure to both recognise and value The Invisible Job is at the heart of today’s gender imbalance.
The process through which women take on The Invisible Job is so engrained in our conditioning that we barely notice it happening or even appreciate what it involves, especially the endless and thankless mental load of project-managing the family’s responsibilities.
In this eye-opening book, Paula Fyans takes a look at what The Invisible Job actually entails and examines how to prevent and address imbalance for these responsibilities in your own relationship, as well as in society as a whole.
The Invisible Job is essential reading for everyone, whether you are already struggling with it yourself, about to encounter it for the first time, or oblivious to the workload your partner is carrying
Paula Fyans has experienced The Invisible Job first-hand, both as a mother working full-time in an international career in pharma and as a stay-at-home mother. Using her scientific background, the book combines extensive global research with insights from interviews with women across the UK and Ireland on their personal experience of The Invisible Job.
Bernadette Wynne (verified owner) –
This is a truly remarkable book. It is amazingly well researched and detailed about what is involved for young couples rearing a family in contemporary society. It is very frank and honest. The author contends that an equitable division of responsibility and chores leads to less exhaustion, less resentment and greater fulfillment for both partners. She presents a useful guide for young couples on planning how to share the responsibility of parenthood to the benefit of both partners, leading to greater harmony and happiness for all the family.
Nora –
This topic is universal and the value in this book is in reading it and considering the issue of equality at home BEFORE “the pattern evolves” and before you slip in to taking on that “mental load” that comes with being the family project manager. Highly highly recommended!
Clare –
Fantastic book, funny, insightful and so relevant to life today. Where was this book for me before I got married and had kids?!! Glad I get to read it now, you’ve hit the nail on the head addressing an issue all couples need to talk about and reading The Invisible Job is a great way to start that discussion. Lovely to hear someone put into words how I feel and didn’t even have time to say properly. Thank you!
Aoife O’Connor –
Hits the nail on the head. Describes what I couldn’t put onto words.